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Burnley Grammar School
Burnley Grammar School
Year: 1959
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There's pleny of room in the modern-styled gymnasium for muscle developing, where the boys are supervised by Mr. R. Parry, the physical education instruction.
Source: Lancashire Life Magazine, December 1959

Comment by: Kris on 20th April 2022 at 22:50

Stuart, were you forced into going in the pool wearing absolutely nothing or could you have taken your swim trunks to school and worn them if you wanted to? It's quite an important distinction would you not say?

Comment by: Mike on 20th April 2022 at 21:20

Lay off Andy, did you read Laura ten days back. Incase you didn't let me refresh you with a cut and pasted quote from her post on 10th April which I think you should digest;

'Let's have a bit of civility. I know it's hard even for some well into adulthood. This is not the school playground now and it's not great to read here and see some people singled out for groundless attacks. Based on what I came on here and read tonight I read back through many of Alan's posts this past few months and saw nothing to justify such singling out. I don't agree with Alan on some of what he says or the angle he chooses to say it but I'll absolutely defend his right to say it without having to endure personal abuse and forum intimidation which I'd guess he had during school like so many I've come across in my own job.'

Stick your cancel culture attitude away. I want to hear all opinion. Stop trying to coerce others into silence just because they may have not had the better experience you might have had. No way do I believe your interpretation of Alan's comments on here and I'm sure even he would fully agree that the vast majority of our former teachers, PE or whatever, conducted themselves perfectly appropriately. But even if just one PE teacher in a hundred or more was a wrong'un in some way then that's still rather too many that will have left a bad memory or worse on a lot of people.

I know. I was at a school with one. Ten years after I left school I got a shock when I was told by a girl I was in class with that one of my own PE teachers, a longstanding head of PE no less, had been dismissed and had appeared at Crown Court on a number of charges relating to men and boys under the age of 21 and convicted on a couple of them. You can imagine this left me playing so much back in my head just wondering about him, although I never had the slightest suspicion he was anything other than completely fine. On quite a few occasions I'd been asked to stay in the changing room for chats with him all by myself after lessons after I'd washed and dressed. Nothing untoward happened and it was mostly PE chat about the lesson and after school PE related activities as I was always keen to be on teams and do out of school extra curriculum things. But just finding that news out all that time after I left was very unsettling.

99% of PE teachers, infact anybody, are fine and upstanding. But it's conspiracies to silence others that have in the past allowed some in this tiny minority to get away with their behaviour.

Lesson over.

Comment by: Stuart on 20th April 2022 at 20:31

Kris, Alan reference to your comments about my use of the phrase 'No one cared'.
What I actually wrote is
"Our parents sent us to school with just a towel, the Headmaster showed prospective parents round whilst we were swimming. No one cared back then,"
The context is all important ,my use of the phrase no one cared referred to the adults not the kids being made to swim naked. At no point did I say or imply what the boys views were.
I have read like you many of the concerns, feelings etc from boys in the USA made to swim nude at school and the YMCAs.

With regards to how boys felt about it I can only speak from my own experience which is a period when I was aged 9 -11 (1973-76). I can honestly say at that age I couldn't have cared less but readily accept and agree that 2 years later it would have been a completely different matter.

With regards to the veracity of my contribution , all I can add is that over the years on this website many people have posted about nude swimming in schools here in the UK and in the USA. I am one of the very few that has been prepared to name the school. If more were prepared to do the same it would make it easier to test the truth of that which they write. Some credit for having done so would be appreciated.

Comment by: Andy on 20th April 2022 at 17:34

Alan on 20th April 2022 at 12:21

Oh dear, after a few weeks of peace and some posts of innocent memories, I see you're back trying to turn everything into scenarios of potential abuse when in reality all those years ago such things almost never happened.

Please go and play somewhere else.

Comment by: Alan on 20th April 2022 at 12:21

Kris has it absolutely right. What raised my gorge when I first come on this sitew was all the gung-ho blokes keep saying "none of us minded" or "I didn't hear any complaints". Well, of course they didn't. If they were as bombastic in boyhood as they are now, they wouldn't have heard any complaints - few lads would have made their misgivings known tolads who wouldn'thave understood, and might well have laughed at them.

Everyone is different in everything in life. For those who didnt mind that was fair enough, but no provision was made for lads who were not happy.

Unless those blokes who say "none of us minded", took part in a secret ballot held in their school, even in their form, they have no way of knowing. I suspect half dreaded it just as half didn't mind. One size doesn't fit all jn anything

Comment by: Brendan on 20th April 2022 at 12:10

George G on 20th April 2022 at 10:03

George, I don't know how I forgot that bit. Worse than anything to do with the medical check was the idea your mother might attend! We got letters at home, my mother didn't work and so had plenty of time to do things like that. Fortunately she never did but the idea of trousers and underpants down in front of the doctor was nothing compared to the idea of my mother being present.

It was bad enough when I went to be trimmed, the nurses told her all about how I was to keep clean afterwards. Fortunately, my father took all that in his stride and I had no complications so after he looked a couple of times he assured her all was fine.

I used to go swimming with my father a couple of nights each week - it was for 'lads and dads' nights so I was used to him seeing me naked as the pool had a communal changing room for men (cubicles for women!) and I saw him naked there too among many lads and dads. The pool is still there and the men still have a communal changing room and the women still have cubicles. Some things don't change.

Comment by: George G on 20th April 2022 at 10:03

In reply to Kris. I remember the medical inspections in our all boys school. I was there from 1962 to66
It was similar to the way you say. We stripped to the waist as we went into the room and after seeing the nurse all lines up one behind the other waiting our turn to see the doctor.. Yes we had to drop our trousers and pants and the boy behind could see that. There was no checking of foreskin only the " cough" check for hernia.

The worst thing was that about a week before we were given a letter to take home explain that there was to be a medical exam, but no details of what was to happen. A parent/guardian could attend if required. The inspections were held over a few weeks and the word got round that you would be showing everything to the doctor and I was worried in case my Nan(because my mother was dead and da d was working) would want to attend and see me naked. Fortunately she decided not to attend, and i do not remember any other parents present. these medicals took place about every couple of years.
Then when I got an office job at the Gas board I had a similar medical at their HQ, and again it was "drop em" and cough. Just to work in an office. Still as has been said we just got on with it.
Finally, I remember that although we wore minimal clothing for P e. the teacher always wore a track suit.

Comment by: Kris on 19th April 2022 at 23:28

"No one cared back then".

Stuart, swimming with nothing on in your private school in the 70s. It's plausable, so I'll for the sake of argument take your word for it. That part wasn't the only contentious bit for me. The part that grabbed me was the bit I've quoted above that you wrote in relation to this. Because that really is the "bullshine" to use that great word someone else used here.

NO ONE CARED? They did you know, I'd swear on it.

Why is it then that it doesn't take long to find comments galore across the internet and articles from men over in the USA at schools and colleges who complain bitterly about this. Some scarred by it, others just found it weird and others simply uneasy and self conscious about it. Men who decades later are deciding to use the power of the internet to finally express their views on it even though some are really getting on in years now and are recounting things in some cases more than 60 years ago.

It's the old issue about men or boys as they once were, not talking about things or showing their true feelings. Saying nothing at the time doesn't mean they were fine and dandy with their lot. Clearly many of this particular generation from over the pond were not so why should we over here be any different in the very few places it might also have happened?

But the really big point that you never said was whether you chose to be that way in your pool lesson or were you told you had to be. That makes a massive difference to the dynamic of the whole thing. Because while I can accept what you say and what you did, what I cannot accept very easily is that in this country here in GB you or any other boys were ordered by mandate to get into the pool for lessons completely stark naked, certainly not in 1973 anyway and that 70s parents all just happened to be fine with it as well, even in private education which seems to play by different rules at times. I saw your links by the way.

Comment by: Brendan on 19th April 2022 at 17:00

TimH on 13th April 2022 at 16:18

You mention medical inspections. I don't think they happen any more but they did in the 1960s when I was at school. One in the first year, one in the third year, one in the fifth year and for those of us who stayed, one in upper sixth. The upper sixth one was a pre-university one for those of us applying and it was part of the process for applying for a grant, maybe not all education authorities required it by where I was they did.

The drill was always the same - it was a boys school.

Report to the hall where there was a nurse who checked sight and hearing then you had to join a queue to see the doctor who was in a screened off area at the side. Before going in to see him you had to take off your blazer and pullover and leave it on a chair.

Once behind the screen there would be the doc in his white coat and he called you to stand beside him and then you had to pull up your shirt and vest so it was right up under your arm pits and push your trousers and underpants down to your ankles.

He listened to your chest and heart, looked in your mouth, checked your testicles and that your foreskin retracted, mine wasn't loose enough so I was duly sent off to be trimmed. In the sixth form we also had to turn round and bend over and he inspected between our cheeks, that was a bit of a shock and I remember I blushed scarlet and I wasn't the only one seeing other lads come out after me. That was it, all over, no drama and nothing to worry about.

Comment by: Stuart on 19th April 2022 at 16:37

Mike - no that is not me. I have never discussed corporal punishment ever.

Comment by: Mike on 19th April 2022 at 15:22

During Easter I dipped completely at random into some old pages going way back, and one was page 71 here on this thread with some comments from exactly 5 years ago in early April 2017. I don't want to sound like some kind of prosecutor cross questioning but I think it's fair to ask as people are calling Stuart out here with not unreasonable comment.

Are you the same Stuart who wrote a few of those comments at that time on that page by any chance? The same Stuart who also happened to leave a contact icon as well? The same Stuart who on that page wrote about canings and also brought full nudity with canings into it in a school gym setting?

You said you have been in touch with a couple of others on here. Which contributors and what attracted you to them specifically? Because it would be helpful to be able to look up the comments on HW of the two you elected to chat with off forum incase they were full of similar lines of thought.

Tom wasn't wrong when he said you'd revealed more than you bargained for, although it wasn't what was under your clothing but what was in your mind.

Comment by: Alan on 19th April 2022 at 14:08

Alex Farthing: Hopefully schools today treat their pupils better, with more respect for them. Certainly I think most these days use first names rather than calling them by surname only, and I hope some of the highly questionable practices that we read about on these pages are now, definately, history.

Comment by: Stuart on 19th April 2022 at 07:40

If I am a liar then all these famous people are lying too,

John Denham ex MP: https://www.boltonschool.org/former-pupils/archives-and-memories/memories-of-school/john-denham-1949-1958/

Rick Stein: https://www.independent.co.uk/student/postgraduate/mbas-guide/an-education-in-the-life-of-rick-stein-master-chef-638439.html

David Hare, playwright: https://www.lancingcollege.co.uk/sites/default/files/inline-files/David%20Hare%20lecture%20LANCING%20AND%20AFTER.pdf

Headmaster of Bradford GS: https://www.bradfordgrammar.com/end-of-term-reflections/

and finally I will name the school I attended from 1973, - Caterham Prep School, in Surrey SEe this article from the school magazine page 15

https://www.caterhamschoolarchive.co.uk/PDFViewer/web/viewer.html?file=%2fFilename.ashx%3ftableName%3dta_publications%26columnName%3dfilename%26recordId%3d293%23page%3d16&searchText=swimming+pool#page=16

Plenty of other evidence out there:
https://brianclegg.blogspot.com/2010/07/past-is-another-country.html

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/comment/personal-view/3622082/When-naked-school-swims-were-normal.html

Comment by: Alex Farthing on 19th April 2022 at 01:40

Alan - One of my regrets in life is not feeling able to say I had any teachers in my perfectly decent school who I thought excelled themselves and that I respected fondly for how they taught me. Turning up 25 years later and discovering one of my craft teachers was every bit the same if not worse was quite sad. And for what I managed to get away with under my PE teachers is by '76-'80 standards quite impressive. To be a really successful refusnik you have to stand your ground and be quite stubborn. I didn't encourage any of my three children to be the same as me so I'm probably a hypocrite too!

Comment by: Christy on 18th April 2022 at 22:54

Naked swim lessons in UK at 7 to11 in 1970s & 1980s, utter bullshine based on the fact it came from a poster who let slip a clothed male nude male fantasy in his contact details whether deliberately or accidentally and made sure to mention that in these swim lessons other clothed people came in on them while doing it who had nothing to do with the class. Sorry, not buying that one in your case Stuart but I'm sure you'll feel free to defend yourself vigorously here at some point.

Comment by: Lance on 18th April 2022 at 20:02

Recent claims of naked swimming - compelled or choice? - for pupils as young as seven on here at schools in England so recent as the 1970s & 1980s just don't seem to fit well with me. That's all I'm saying.

Comment by: Alan on 18th April 2022 at 18:12

Alex Farthing: You sound like a man after my own heart. One of the things that struck me at school, and later, was the bumptiousness of some teachers, who felt, even after you had left school, that they were still "above" you, like some important untouchable, royal figure talking to his butler.

About two years after I left school, I saw one of my old teachers on a railway station and he called me by my surname - I just gave him a look of contempt and gave him two fingers, then ignored him. To be fair, he was no worse, and even a bit better, than some of our other teachers, but yet another one who showed complete contempt and indifference to the boys he was teaching. Respect is a two way street - that is one lesson so few of them ever learned, at least back in the day. If fhey want respect they have to show respect.

Some of these people had far too high an opinion of their own importance - a bit like eldeerly politicisns, who, once they have been voted out, still are arrogant enough to think we are concerned about what they think.

Comment by: Neal on 18th April 2022 at 15:18

How nice to read plenty new on here that isn't revolving about what got worn under lads gym shorts. That was stifling the conversation here quite clearly.

Perhaps the funniest thing I've read on here all year is Rachel on 26th March asking if boys with hairy chests were exempt from stripping off. Well I can answer that one for her and it's a clear "no". Not that I asked to be exempt, I was fine. I was one of those in the mid to late seventies who did a lot of my gym p.e bare topped and hit puberty very early on. On my 15th birthday I had no chest hair but by 16 there was a dark and noticeable sprouting across my upper chest and tummy that stood out different to most others. My birthday was early September making me one of the oldest in class. I rather liked it and my p.e teacher told me I'd been eating too many greens. People used to say eating them - "that'll put hairs on your chest". The p.e teacher in my final exam year used to take some of our p.e with his p.e vest completely off and he had no hair at all, so I think he was maybe a bit envious of this lad he had.

I can't think of any reason why having some hair on your chest should mean you have to keep it hidden. There's nothing wrong with doing p.e like that. I think it promotes a healthy physical attitude. You did as you were told in school in the seventies and no answering back. One lad in my class who was a bit funny over all that kind of thing simply had his vest pulled over his head and off one day and had to deal with it and he no hairs on his chest. Nowadays someone somewhere would likely accuse that teacher of something close to a physical assault, hurting his feelings or violating his human rights.

Hope that answers your question Rachel, although I think it's quite rare to see lads by 16 with noticeable chest hair like I had. It might seem weirder nowadays with male grooming all the thing whereas in the seventies all men seemed to have hairy chests and want them it seemed.

Comment by: Alex Farthing on 18th April 2022 at 00:21

Graham - I was pressured to go to my school year reunion by my wife, as I wasn't greatly bothered. This was 2005, and I'd left in 1980. I didn't know what to expect, but one thing I did not anticipate was a couple of my old teachers hanging about as well as one or two from the class. It was a place where half the male staff used last names on boys only. Recognising my old metalwork-woodwork teacher Mr Underwood, I walked close by and before I got a chance to reintroduce myself thinking he'd not recall me he shouted out to me by surname only, twice. I was with my wife and a bit stunned. With my hello I jokingly said just his last name Underwood back at him like he had to me but he was having none of it and he said - Mister Underwood if you don't mind. It was like being naughty and regressing back into circa 1980. My wife was unamused by that and fumed sarcastically - You can call my husband Mister Farthing if you like, or just Alex I chipped in, my actual first name. The look on his face was priceless. The conversation was brief and we moved on to someone else rapidly. He never did call me Alex or Mister Farthing when we concluded. We laughed about it later at home as I never had a high opinion of this teacher but managed to come away thinking even less of him than at school. A shame there were none of my own PE teachers there that day as that could have had the potential for even more bother. I was an outright refusenik for some PE and preferred to take the consequences, sometimes a detention. The changing room was a grotty thing and the shower tiles had mould in corners. Use that, you've got to be kidding. After a while I just thought, not showering anymore here. None of their hollering at me had much effect. I just walked out nearly always and eventually they gave up on my strong headedness and I got away with things other boys could only dream of. Unfair I know but c'est la vie. A bit like Boris Johnson in some ways!

Comment by: Tony on 17th April 2022 at 21:28

I hate acronyms especially when I'm presumed to know what they mean and then have to guess or look them up. I must have led a sheltered life. Haven't nearly all of us who showered with our PE teachers gazing on technically been a part of this cmnm thingy, although I didn't get much of a kick out of it.

One for Nicky, and I had not one but at least three PE teacher's very much like your one. I wasn't ginger, or too thin and had nothing too obvious to be picked up on but some of these guys used to be able to find more than enough to have a go at just for the sake of it. One in particular was absolutely impossible to please. You could never jump high enough, run fast enough or score enough to please him even if you broke the school record. With these guys it seemed like a twice weekly attempt to grind self worth right into the ground.

Comment by: Jim on 17th April 2022 at 17:46

Oh dear Stuart, hate to say this but in a week when the jockstrap overkill has been confronted on here and agreed with by others, for you to come along and stick an obvious fetish based contact, which is what CMNM is, strikes me as somewhat extraordinary if you wish to be taken seriously.

You said to Tom 'it has nothing to do with my contribution to this site' but of course it does if you are using it for the purposes of this H.W forum. It affects perceptions here and especially when you made a mention of swimming with nothing on.

Nothing wrong with such a harmless thing at all by the way. Just plays into the hands of those here who call out this kind of thing.

Comment by: Bernard on 16th April 2022 at 23:14

It's good to see some more positive comments recently. I too had got rather bored with so much talk about jockstraps - a rather mysterious and unnecessary item as far as I can see.

I was never very good at p.e. but I enjoyed it and, as long as we tried hard the teachers were happy. Our kit was very spartan and this could be a little challenging outside in the winter but I wouldn't have changed anything. I always found p.e. to be a welcome change from our academic lessons which could be quite intense.

Comment by: John on 16th April 2022 at 15:47

Tom F you are so right. Very revealing. Laura isn't wrong with the points she made on here is she and it helps make her case further. I'd never heard of that acronym until today.

Comment by: Nicky 1977 on 15th April 2022 at 15:50

Secondary school 1989-95.

At school I had thick ginger hair, very pale skin, freckles everywhere on my face, chest and shoulders and was quite tall thin and lanky with it, but I was also confident too thank God and quite able at team sports. I didn't mind being seen in the changing room with everything off and never understood why some lads got so wound up about all that if I didn't looking like I did. I had all the traits waiting to be ribbed about, but maybe my confidence saw to it that nobody said things to me. No one in my school year group did, not to my face anyway, none of my mates or anything. There is a big BUT though, and adult did, and it was one tool of a PE teacher of mine who used my physical appearance against me on a large number of occasions, about my thinness, freckled appearance and colour of my hair. One day when I was standing in the changing room with just a towel around my waist he came up and actually asked me why I had so many freckles on my chest. What an idiot! But I had a good answer back and said "ask my parents". The irony was that he was also slightly gingery too and seemed to take it as a licence to hurl abuse my way and get away with it, a bit like black people thinking they can get away with insulting other black people just because they're similar. His words had no effect on my esteem but to those prone to such stuff the damage could have been incalculable. I think these types of school teacher were far far more than 1%. There was always silence allowing some of these PE tossers to get away with their low level weekly personal insults against selected children. Never been to a re-union but would delight in telling this tool exactly what I think of him even though I left school in the summer of 1995. He was young enough to probably still be doing the same to other stick thin gingers like me even now.

Comment by: Stuart on 15th April 2022 at 13:03

Only for those in the know Tom F :) and it has nothing to do with my contribution to this site.

Comment by: Tom F on 15th April 2022 at 02:20

Stuart, the lettering of your email address has inadvertently said as much about you as your post if I may say. ;-)

Comment by: Stuart on 14th April 2022 at 15:27

Graham Butterfield - what a great post and I join with you in saying that my expeirences of PE teachers was all positive, they were indeed not the stereotype you hear so often talked about on here and in general.

I went in the mid 70s to early 80s to all boys school (prep 7-11) and then senior (11-18) and did PE and games throughout twice a week. One PE lesson usually in the school gym and then one afternoon of sport (football, rugby, hockey, cricket etc) . There was also swimming on top of that - in the prep school, use of the senior pool weekly and then in a different senior school use of public pool in selecyted PE lessons.

Our kit was simple: PE white shorts, white top, plimsolls. No underwear, compulsory showers afterwards.
Games : typical sports kit at the school playing fields followed again by in the first year use of 2 big baths you used to see in pro football pictures (often with a cup!) and which really didn't get you clean and then over the summer thankfully replaced by a modern shower block from the second year onwards.

Every boy showered and I can't recall anyone complaining, some were more shy than others though. We grew up together , so it was no big deal. Teachers were present but that was to ensure boys didn't skip the showers and also to stop any bullying, misbehaviour etc.

I have been to a few reunions and reconnected with fellow former pupils , sport talked about but more in terms of matches, victories etc not about the post match showers. The cricket team collegaues in the 6th form remembered stopping off at country pubs on the way back from away matches with the teacher - we all remarked that would never happen nowadays even though most of the team (U6th) were by that stage 18 years old.

The only "controversial" part of my PE experience was in the prep school in that we had swimming in the nude. I say controversial because it would be that today but back then it wasn't at all. Our parents sent us to school with just a towel, the Headmaster showed prospective parents round whilst we were swimming. No one cared back then, it was quite common practice in boys private schools as it was in the YMCAs in America.

My email address is on here always happy to correspond privately and indeed do with 2 people from this site. Hope that helps Graham.

Comment by: Ross on 14th April 2022 at 06:38

Always have good memories of PE from my time at school in the 90s so compared to some it wasn't that long ago. We never wore jockstrap and the rules said we were to do PE without underwear for hygienic reasons and no nobody ever checked. If the lesson was outside and we got muddy from running cross country or playing rugby then we all took a shower it wasn't a big deal yes they were communal showers but I don't remember anyone having a problem about getting one. Our indoor and outdoor summer kit was white tee, white or navy shorts and bare feet. Our outdoor winter kit was rugby shirt, navy shorts and footwear was dependent on the activities we were doing.

Comment by: Graham Butterfield on 13th April 2022 at 17:26

It is a great shame that there is so much negativity surrounding Phys.Ed during schooldays as I think I may have mentioned in one of my debut write ups some weeks ago. Many thanks to Laura for the acknowledgement by the way.

I have attended a number of former pupils and staff reunions at a couple of the places I’ve worked over the years. When former pupils come up to me they tend to be mostly positive memories, although not always I’m ready to admit. But it does appear that those who come to reunions from schooldays and want to meet old faces whether that’s old friends or teachers, are the type who had generally positive school experiences and also who have done well in life. I’ve been wary at reunions that I’m probably only seeing and hearing part of the overall picture and that much remains unknown. Most people do not come to school reunions and even if they knew about them I’m sure some would actively wish to avoid many they once shared school life with, whether in class with their peers or teachers.

I was always completely aware that there are plenty of kids who struggle with Phys.Ed in many different ways, whether it be what they are asked to partake in or how they are asked to present themselves. Then you’d get those who struggled but actually loved Phys.Ed despite their limitations. The ones I really got sharp with were those who chose not to make any effort at all, but that’s not as many as you’d think actually, even among the haters.

I used to frequently get given the annual task of showing the new intake around all of the school blocks on a full school tour a couple of months before they arrived proper in autumn. When we’d arrive in my area in the periods I took Phys.Ed (I did Maths as well) I’d bring everyone into the gym hall and use that as a place to invite questions. Nearly every time the questions were the same. 1) Do we have to go outside when it rains? Yes. 2) How long is Phys.Ed? 3) Do we still have to do Phys.Ed if we forget our kit? Most of the time a yes. 4) Can we choose what to wear? No. 5) Do we do Phys.Ed inside with or without a top? Both. 6) Do we have to do football/rugby/running etc, take your pick. Yes. 7) Can we wear a watch? Generally no, but sometimes allowed for personal run times. But the biggest question of all which never once failed to get asked in these situations from the new intake was 8) Will we have to take a shower? The answer was always yes, as every school I worked in including the foreign ones I was seconded to required them as part of Phys.Ed, and I think it’s the right thing to provide, even if I was aware when I answered this question that you could sense a collective intake of breath at times and shuffling body language amongst many of the group looking on with their fears surrounding nudity amongst each other being asked of them. Always one for reassurance I would often add that the doing of all these Phys.Ed things was often easier than overthinking it all, which for most it was.

Troubles, fears, or negativity in life is often halved by facing down the reasons head on. It really is. Perceptions matter too, and there are some dreadfully unfair and inaccurate perceptions about school, and Phys.Ed and those who took it specifically that are often allowed to run wild. Whether you went to school in the 1940’s through to recent decades, most Phys.Ed men, and the women while I’m at it, were great people, fair, enthusiastic, decent and tolerant. Just because your Phys.Ed teacher, like me, made you do a sport you hated didn’t make him or me an uncaring ogre, and just because Phys.Ed teachers asked their young charges to clean up properly with highly visible collective group showering of the class afterwards in their 11+ years did not make Phys.Ed teachers 99% of the time sinister voyeurs. I really feel I have to say that, as I’ve come across a couple of contributions on here that would perpetrate a myth that every other person, if not nearly everyone should be viewed with an air of suspicion. I took to task someone on the Hesketh chat to mention one example of somebody recently.

I’d love to know if anyone here has ever been to a school reunion, either as a former pupil or staff in any capacity and what they found the experience to be like.

I’ve noticed that some people place an e-mail link on here. Has this proven useful with any worthwhile private feedback at all?

Comment by: TimH on 13th April 2022 at 16:18

Matthew

Did you make an error when you said ‘unfortunately, men have engaged in conversation with her’ (Andrea, Bless her). (Fortunately, surely)

The input from the ladies over the years has been very enjoyable and I think back to Claire’s recent work finding posts that were lifted from other sources, Rachel’s comments about hairy chests and not forgetting Emma (& her husband) whom someone described as ‘perfect parents’ (or similar).

This ‘board’ started way back in 2008 and I’ve been contributing on-and-off since then. Early discussions seemed to be about ‘British Bulldog’ (which I don’t think we played at school) and ‘Pirates’ (which we did, and which probably broke every H&S in the book, even then [at least the way we played it]). Over the years there’ve been all sorts of mini-threads (like the claim that at one boarding school the pupils were locked into chastity devices at the start of term), plus the endless discussions about wearing underpants and ‘shirts v skins’. (A suggestion once that there was a Government instruction that underpants were not to be worn and ‘Inspectors’ went round checking on that).

We’ve had ‘fantasists’ – one person who does need sympathy & support (and who probably also appeared under a pseudonym) and people who were, to me, a little too intense in some of the following questions.

And, of course the questions about medical inspections...

Sad to say, that seems to have gone from the board. It only seems a few weeks ago, but was probably longer, when someone was threatened with legal action (or similar) after comments were made about a named teacher (and similar suggestions only a few days ago.)

Recently the question of, err, ‘jockstraps’ came up (horrible garments – I didn’t wear them at school), but to suggest:

‘One has to presume that the mere act of talking about them has the same effect as outlined below.’ – a reference to an article in Wikipedia (which does draw from a well reviewed book).

I’m afraid I find this rather out of order – I don’t particular want to read (or contribute to) this board (and before anyone says it, although ‘retired’ I am deeply involved in ‘social care’ – it’s just that I don’t talk about it).